{"id":658,"date":"2016-09-21T17:15:04","date_gmt":"2016-09-21T17:15:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/new.eklutheran.ca\/?page_id=658"},"modified":"2020-03-26T12:31:31","modified_gmt":"2020-03-26T18:31:31","slug":"grief-course-7","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/eklutheran.ca\/?page_id=658","title":{"rendered":"Grief Course 7"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00a0“ROLLING THE <\/strong>BALL OF GRIEF<\/strong><\/em> . . .”<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

Welcome.\u00a0 Before we get started, get comfortable with a cup of tea or coffee if you wish, and let’s pray:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Lord, in Jeremiah 29:11 You tell us that You have plans to prosper us and not to harm us, plans to give us hope and a future.\u00a0 –\u00a0 Lead us, Lord Jesus, in each step we take.\u00a0 Amen<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

God\u2019s Word gives us hope during our losses.\u00a0 Read them every day for a while, and meditate on them.\u00a0 They will help you \u201cto see the light at the end of your tunnel.\u201d\u00a0 Personalize them, too.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cYou have delivered my life from death,<\/strong> my eyes from tears, and my feet from stumbling.
\nI will walk before the Lord in the land of the living.\u201d\u00a0 (Psalm 116:8-9)<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI (<\/strong>God)<\/strong><\/em> will turn their <\/strong>(my)<\/strong><\/em> mourning into gladness;<\/strong>
\nI (God)<\/em> will give them (me)<\/em> comfort and joy instead of sorrow.\u201d\u00a0 (Jeremiah 31:13)
\n<\/strong><\/span>
\n In his book, “Mourning Into Dancing”, Walter Wangerin, Jr., described these responses: <\/strong>
\n\u201cSorrow and joy are not separate.\u00a0 Happiness and sadness may be the opposites of one another, but not joy and sorrow.\u00a0 In fact, it is through sorrow that one discovers a calm, abiding indestructible joy.\u00a0 This is the paradox of our faith; joy is forged<\/em> in sorrow.\u201d\u00a0 <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

We have talked before of the aspect in our Christian faith, that the cross with sorrow, pain and tears, accompanied by feelings of being lost, lonely, ridiculed, misunderstood\u00a0and defeated, is followed by the resurrection.\u00a0 First Good Friday, then Easter Sunday!<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cWhat are some positive steps that those who experience a loss can take in order to recover?\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

There are many positive steps that can be taken to aid in recovering from a loss.<\/strong><\/span>
\n The following 4 we have already looked at:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

    \n
  1. A starting point is acknowledging and understanding the significance of your loss.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
  2. You need to face and experience the pain even though you\u2019d prefer to run from it.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
  3. You need to adjust to that empty place in your life.\u00a0 It\u2019s a matter of learning to live life without whomever or whatever you lost.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
  4. A big step is changing your emotional attachment to what you\u2019ve lost into re-investment of your emotions into something new.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    For the moment, let\u2019s look at:\u00a0 <\/strong>WHAT CAN BE DONE TO HELP YOU MOVE ON?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

    1.)\u00a0 Identify and express your feelings.<\/u><\/strong><\/u><\/span><\/p>\n

    For some this is easy.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

    Others struggle trying to figure out
    \nwhat they are feeling and talking about it.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

    Many have been helped by this
    \nvisual definition of grief:\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

    “THE BALL OF GRIEF”<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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    This is not in\u00a0your book “Recovering from the Losses of Life”.<\/strong>
    \nPlease, take a look at it.\u00a0 Do you see yourself in this tangled ball of emotions?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

    I suggest that you keep the “Ball of Grief”\u00a0handy and use it to help identify what you are experiencing.\u00a0 The feelings described here are what just about everyone experiences.\u00a0 They are normal.<\/strong><\/span>
    \n If anyone says otherwise, don\u2019t listen to them since they are not an expert on grief.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

    From time to time it will help to look closely at\u00a0one emotion in order to describe what it feels like and to determine its extent.\u00a0 For example, let’s consider <\/strong>DEPRESSION.\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

    Please, evaluate where you are now using the 3 questions:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

      \n
    1. What is it like when you feel depressed?<\/strong>
      \n– a slate gray afternoon
      \n– a cold, drizzling rain
      \n– a hot, oppressively humid day
      \n– a freezing morning with a bitter wind
      \n– a dull, overcast sky
      \n– a season of ankle-deep mud and slush<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
    2. Right now, what type of weather forecast best describes where you are in the spiral process of dealing with your loss?<\/strong>
      \n– stormy conditions
      \n– partly cloudy
      \n– heavy rain
      \n– a thaw
      \n– chilly days
      \n– sunny days ahead
      \n– gentle spring breezes are blowing<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
    3. With your current grief process in mind, place yours somewhere on the scale:<\/strong>
      \n____________________________________________________________
      \nNot been\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Beginning\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 In the middle of\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I\u2019m through most
      \ndepressed\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 to feel down\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 a heavy depression\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 of my depression<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

      \u00a0<\/strong>
      \n<\/strong>ANGER<\/strong><\/span> is another common response.\u00a0 We become angry at many things with a loss.\u00a0 <\/strong>
      \n\u201cIt isn\u2019t fair that I lost . . .Look at others – they haven\u2019t lost their. . .!!!\u201d\u00a0 <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

        \n
      • Anger <\/strong>(resentment)<\/strong><\/em> and even rage are common reactions to the loss of a loved one.<\/strong>
        \nYou may be terribly angry (resentful)<\/em> right now as you think about what you lost and how your life has changed overnight.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
      • You may be angry <\/strong>(resentful)<\/strong><\/em> at the person who died and has left you behind,\u00a0facing a lot of legal work and loneliness.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
      • You may be angry at yourself for not having done or doing enough.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
      • You may be angry because of the change in lifestyle inflicted upon you.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
      • You may be angry over <\/strong>(resent)<\/strong><\/em> role changes that have to be made\u00a0within your family.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
      • You may be angry for <\/strong>(resent)<\/strong><\/em> what you perceive to be a loss of control\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 in your life.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
      • You may be angry that family and friends have gone back to their\u00a0normal lives and aren\u2019t thinking about your grief.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
      • You may be angry <\/strong>(resent)<\/strong><\/em> that the rest of the world busies itself\u00a0around you as tough nothing has happened.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
      • You may be angry with or resentful against\u00a0God.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

        Anger is a warning sign.\u00a0 Anger may be the first emotion we are aware of, but it is rarely the first emotion we experience in a particular situation.\u00a0 The emotions that most frequently precede anger are fear, hurt, or frustration.\u00a0 Not only are these three painful, but they also drain us of energy and increase our sense of vulnerability.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

        At an early stage in our lives many of us learned that anger can divert our attention from these more painful emotions.\u00a0 If I get angry I can avoid or at least minimize my pain.\u00a0 Perhaps I can even influence or change the source of my anger.\u00a0 I can blame something or somebody.<\/strong>
        \nIt doesn\u2019t take us long to learn that it is easier to feel anger than it is to feel pain.\u00a0 Anger provides an increase of energy and can decrease our sense of vulnerability.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

        Always ask yourself, \u201cWhat is the pain, the fear, the hurt, the frustration behind my anger?\u201d\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

        What can you do with the anger?<\/u><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

          \n
        1. You can again use the \u2018Garfield\u2019 method of putting labels on your emotions, face them, name them, if possible talk to a friend about them.\u00a0 This will diminish their grip on you.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
        2. Here is an example of what one man did that for him was very beneficial.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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          If you are struggling with anger, I suggest that you follow this man\u2019s example.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

          Here are some more examples on how people have dealt with anger:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

            \n
          • A mother became very angry about her son\u2019s death caused by a drunk driver.\u00a0 Her anger, put to positive use, has created an organization, MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving), that now promotes legislation and awareness programs to remove drunk drivers from the nation\u2019s roads.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

            Anger can be used positively and creatively in many ways.\u00a0 Here are several ways in which anger has been used positively:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

              \n
            • A grandmother requested that parents of cancer victims be provided printed information about cancer as well as the location of support groups.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
            • An adult son who lost his elderly father organized programs for a local convalescent home.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
            • A young mother who lost her preschool age daughter solicited toy contributions to give to a local pediatric ward.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

              Notice the action words.\u00a0 People not only re-directed their anger but also brought relief and sense of control to their lives:\u00a0\u00a0 They requested, organized, solicited.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

              Let us take another look at the “BALL OF GRIEF”.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

              Other emotions tend to dominate our lives when we are grieving:<\/strong>\u00a0\u00a0 FEAR\u00a0<\/strong>and<\/strong> WORRY<\/strong>.<\/strong>
              \nWorry can be like a war that quietly rages inside you.\u00a0 It has few limits and boundaries.\u00a0 Worry is the uneasy, suffocating feeling we often experience in times of fear, trouble or problems.\u00a0 When we worry, we look pessimistically into the future and think of the worst possible outcomes to the situations of our lives.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

              Scripture describes this struggle in a very visual way:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

              Listen to Habakkuk 3:16 ff, as he describes a period in his life:<\/strong>
              \n\u201cI heard (the news)<\/em> and my heart pounded, my lips quivered;
              \ndecay crept into my bones and my legs trembled. . .
              \nThough the fig tree does not bud and there are no grapes on the vines;
              \nthough the olive crop fails and the fields produce no food,
              \nthough there are no sheep in the pen and no cattle in the stalls,
              \nyet I will (to)<\/em> rejoice in the Lord, I will (to)<\/em> be joyful in God my Savior.\u201d<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

              Note, “will to<\/em>“:\u00a0 sometimes it is an ACT of your will to ‘rejoice’ in the Lord!!<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

              \u201cAnxiety <\/strong>(worry)<\/strong><\/em> in a person\u2019s heart weighs it down, but an encouraging word makes it glad.\u201d
              \n(Proverb 12:25)<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

              \u201cWhen a person is gloomy <\/strong>(because of worry<\/strong><\/em>), everything seems to be and to go wrong; when a person is cheerful, then he continually finds good in everything <\/strong>(regardless of circumstances)<\/strong><\/em>.\u201d\u00a0 (Prov. 15:15, paraphrased)<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

              Here is one suggestion that thousands have used to overcome the worries that invade their minds.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/strong>
              \nTake a blank index (recipe)<\/em> card and on one side write the STOP in large, bold letters.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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              On the other side write the complete text of Philippians 4:6-9,<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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              \nuse the NIV or Living Bible (paraphrased).<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

              Keep the card with you at all times.\u00a0 Whenever you\u2019re alone<\/u> and begin to worry, take the card out, hold the STOP side in front of you, and say aloud, \u201cSTOP!\u201d twice with emphasis.\u00a0 Then turn the card over and read the Scripture passage aloud twice with emphasis.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

              2) So, what can further be done to help you move on?<\/u><\/strong>
              \n1.)\u00a0Another positive step you can take that will help you and everyone else who learns of your loss is to construct an EXPLANATION LETTER.
              \nAfter you have talked about your loss to a certain amount of people for a certain period of time, there comes a time when this is no longer helpful to you but instead becomes both tiresome and irritating.
              \nTo add to this dilemma will be the silence as well as stumbling, hurtful comments from others, because others often don\u2019t know how to respond to you, or what to say in general.
              \nIt is all right for you to take charge and let others know what you need and don\u2019t need at this time of your life.\u00a0 That doesn\u2019t always mean that others will comply.\u00a0 Unfortunately, you may have to educate others about grief.\u00a0 You have to go after what you need to resolve your loss.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                \n
              • Let others know that they don\u2019t have to avoid bringing up your loss.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
              • Let them know you want them to call, to ask you how you are doing, and <\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
              • not to be put off by your tears or anger.\u00a0 <\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n
              • You are as normal as they are, you are just at a different stage in your life.<\/strong>
                \nPerhaps it would help you and others if you prepared a set of instructions to ease their anxiety about how to assist you.
                \nYou have a copy of this type of letter at the end of Chapter 3, page 60,\u00a0in your book.\u00a0 This letter is only a suggestion that can be altered to fit your loss situation.<\/strong><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

                2.)\u00a0 Another way of letting others know about your situation is through a WEEKLY UPDATE on your ANSWERING MACHINE. <\/strong>
                \n\u201cDave\u201d is a husband whose wife died of cancer.\u00a0 He continued these messages over a period of 4 years and transcribed each one<\/u> so he has a written record of his grief journey<\/u>.\u00a0 This was his way of letting others know how to pray for him.\u00a0 It also helped to answer his adult daughter\u2019s questions and brought a new closeness to his family.\u00a0 His wife died January 25, 1997.\u00a0 Many would call purposely when he was at work just to get the weekly update.\u00a0 It seemed that these messages coached others through their difficulties in life.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                He started his messages with:\u00a0 \u201cHi, this is Dave\u201d, and went on to talk about how he felt lost without his wife.\u00a0 He quoted Proverb 3:5-6.<\/strong>
                \nSome time later he shares that it had been 5 months since her death and tells specific areas of his life where he misses her.\u00a0 He ends with Isaiah 40:28-29.
                \nThen, another time, he confesses to ‘ugly thoughts’ and asks for prayer.\u00a0 Psalm 145:8-9.
                \netc. etc.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                3) If you struggle with tears and crying seems to consume your day, you may want to use a
                \n\u201cTIME TO CRY\u201d.\u00a0 For some it is helpful to establish a specific time during the day for the purpose of crying.\u00a0 Set a timer for 30 minutes, sit and cry over the pain and loss until the timer goes off.\u00a0 Then decide to get into some activity that\u2019s productive.<\/strong>
                \nIf the tears come back, interrupt them as best you can and remind yourself that tomorrow you will have another opportunity to cry.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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                The next day do the same, but set the timer for 29 minutes.\u00a0 The day after that do the same, but set the time for 28 minutes and continue each day with one minute less until 30 days are up.\u00a0 By this time most feel their life is no longer dominated by tears but there is more of a balance.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                4) One of the concerns that many struggle with is not remembering the details of the person\u2019s life that they have lost.\u00a0 You may want to consider creating a\u00a0COLLECTION\u00a0OF 1,000 ONE-LINERS.\u00a0 A husband who lost his wife after 35 years suggested this.\u00a0 Every time you think of something about the person you want to remember write it down on one line.\u00a0 When you have 1,000 of them you probably have most of what you want to remember.\u00a0 By doing this activity you\u2019ll find that it will help you grieve as well.\u00a0 You could also add a picture now and then and make it a bit of a photo album.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                On the left is an example of such a collection.\u00a0 I (mother<\/em>) made this one after the death (April 11, 1997) of our 15 year young son, Martin who died suddenly in an accident.\u00a0\u00a0Originally a newspaper column, we framed it and it now hangs in\u00a0our kitchen.\u00a0 The scan is very poor quality,\u00a0but it gives the idea:\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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                MARTIN – THE BABY<\/u><\/strong>\u00a0 <\/strong>
                \nBorn December\u00a0<\/strong><\/span>3, 1981
                \nBaptized Easter Sunday Sunrise Service
                \nApril 11, 1982
                \nMARTIN – THE TODDLER<\/u>
                \nLearns to talk (and talks and talks…)
                \nLearns to walk (never to sit still again)
                \nClimbs under, into, around and over everything,
                \nthus challenging the law of gravity on more than one occasion.
                \nPreschool, becoming bilingual;
                \nsoccer (“Why can’t everybody get a ball?”)<\/em>
                \nMARTIN – THE BOY<\/u>
                \nSunday\u00a0School Mt. Zion Lutheran Church;
                \nGordon Terrace School (K-gr.3)
                \nPinewood School (gr.4-gr.7)
                \nSoccer, skiing, skating (Hockey)
                \nNintendo
                \nGymnastics (Key City\u00a0Gym Club)
                \nSwimming (Triton Swim Club)
                \nHyper, happy, healthy, strong willed.
                \nInvents much (i.e. mousetrap to catch mice alive – successfully!)
                \nPiano lessons (“I hate practicing!”)<\/em>
                \nHiking, Camping (“Yukon – bestest trip ever!”)<\/em>
                \nPets (“I’ld love to breed dogs one day.”),<\/em>
                \netc. etc. etc.
                \nMARTIN – THE TEENAGER<\/u>
                \nParkland Sec. School, honor roll student,
                \nPercussion\/Band (gr.8),
                \nWoodturning on lathe:\u00a0 Crafts for sale at Christmas Bazaars.
                \nMost Sunday mornings at church.
                \nSoccer referee and soccer player (team shirt #13)
                \nSnowboarding ((K2\/ “I wished we had 9 months winter!”)<\/em>
                \nSkateboarding (“Snow is sure softer than cement!”)<\/em>
                \nTrips and travels here and abroad (“Parasailing is awesome, man!”)<\/em>
                \nBuilds bat and bird houses;
                \nmows lawn, chops wood, shovels snow;
                \nfishing, sailing, swimming, golfing;
                \nseemingly endless energy;
                \nspontaneous, generous, philosophical (“What if…”)<\/em>
                \nContagiously joyful, happy, upbeat.
                \nOpinionated (“Camomile tea heals everything!”)<\/em>
                \nInvincible, impatient, determined (“I think we should have a pond \u2026)<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                \u00a0<\/strong><\/span>5) To counter the tendency to become immobilized, it may be helpful to make a list of the\u00a0ESSENTIALS as well as NON-ESSENTIALS that need to be completed.\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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                6) Many have heard of DAILY JOURNALING as a means of recovering.\u00a0 There are various ways in which to do it.\u00a0\u00a0At the\u00a0end of this session you will find steps that were also\u00a0taken by the same husband whose taped messages were shared earlier.\u00a0\u00a0Scroll down and\u00a0read\u00a0them over.\u00a0 You might want to consider this.\u00a0 I scanned them for your use, unfortunately, the quality is not the best – I apologize!<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                Examples of JOURNALING<\/u><\/strong>
                \n<\/u><\/strong>(Some of my favorites are #2 ‘Stepping Stones’,
                \n#6 ‘Write letters’, #14 ‘Secondary Losses’ and\u00a0#18 “Time Line”.
                \nBut, YOU might\u00a0find some others more to YOUR taste!)<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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                7) With every loss, for recovery to occur, you need to SAY GOOD-BYE.\u00a0 We will consider this process next session, session 8.<\/strong><\/span>
                \n \u00a0<\/strong>
                \nThis time, there is no\u00a0further chapter to read in your book “Recovering from the Losses of Life”.
                \nI think\u00a0there is enough material right here online.\u00a0 If you have the book, make sure you have read chapter 5 as indicated after session 6.\u00a0 Take your time . . .<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                Let us close with a prayer:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

                Lord, by Your Spirit cause us to come to you.\u00a0 You said, \u2018Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.\u00a0 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.\u00a0 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.\u2019 (Matthew 11:28-30)<\/strong> Lord, cause us to come to You and You alone.\u00a0 Amen<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

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                Session 6<\/span><\/a> \u00a0Session 8<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

                \u00a0“ROLLING THE BALL OF GRIEF . . .” Welcome.\u00a0 Before we get started, get comfortable with a cup of tea or coffee if you wish, and let’s pray: Lord, in Jeremiah 29:11 You tell us that You have plans to prosper us and not to harm us, plans to give us hope and a future.\u00a0 … [Read more…]<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"page-full-width.php","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["entry","page","publish","author-eklpadmin","post-658"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/eklutheran.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/658","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/eklutheran.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/eklutheran.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eklutheran.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/eklutheran.ca\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=658"}],"version-history":[{"count":33,"href":"https:\/\/eklutheran.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/658\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2983,"href":"https:\/\/eklutheran.ca\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/pages\/658\/revisions\/2983"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/eklutheran.ca\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=658"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}